emotional intellegence

                         

                        

Emotional Intelligence

Just like everyone else I reached Bangalore with lot of hopes and I am fortunate to find the B- school IMPERIAL COLLEGE OF BUSSINESS STUDIES (ICBS). The concept that is lingering me ever since I reached Bangalore is EMOTIONAL INTELLEGENCE. I found it to be very interesting, which gave me a new feeling and solved many mysterious questions hither to left unanswered in my mind. Emotional intelligence enables one to deal with any situation and make most out of life.

The origin of my curiosity into this topic goes back to some bad experience I had in my childhood. Our's is a small family that comprised my mother, my father, my sister and me. Like every brother I used to fight with my only sister for several reasons and always ended up with lot of counseling from my parents. One day we had a family gathering I was depressed that I don’t a new dress to wear when my father tried to explain me I suddenly shouted at him with a fierce voice and I said “why do you always try to counsel me and keep your daughter comfortable, why don’t you treat me like your son”, with that my dad was upset and left the place in silence, my mother didn’t speak to me for several days. Just like this I had face many situations in my life filled with emotions, but I never had been able to master them but one incident that moved me the most and deep routed in my mind.

I live in a small town in Vijayawada we own a house in the middle of the city. Rent is the only source of income for my family. As usual at the end of the month I went to collect the rent from tenant’s rambabu and Sri Devi a beautiful couple with three children, they told me that they are in financial crisis and requested to weeks’ time to pay the rent or so I returned. To my surprise Sri Devi started quarreling and it went on for hours and next day morning the house was full of silence. Sri Devi hanged herself to death. These questions gave rise to lot of questions in my mind. Only questions and questions without answers. I found the answer almost after 8 years far away from home in Bangalore well it’s never too late to learn emotional intelligence.

Many people don’t know about emotional intelligence. Some people take it lightly. Those are the people who suffer most, as emotions get better of them. 

Emotional intelligence can be defined as.

“The ability to understand, identify, assess and control the emotions of one self, of others and groups”. Without emotional intelligence we lack self-awareness hence we fail to understand our own feelings. To understand our self and others we have to keep track of certain crucial emotions like

Anger, frustration, depression, anxiety, insecurity, and uneasiness.

Our families help us to shape our attitudes about emotions, our ability to identify emotions, our way of interpreting events and our ways of expressing emotions. In families failure to understand each other’s emotions are likely to have a long term consequences. Children raised by parents who have problem in understanding each other’s emotions are likely to develop emotional problems of their own. So in the above examples even though I shouted at my father, his silence made me to realize that I am supposed to control my emotions while communicating to elders. In other case the reason for the fight between rambabu and Sri Devi is not the question of money but lack of understanding and control in emotions. If they had had emotional intelligence their children would not have been orphans.

The rise in divorce cases suggests that many people lack emotional intelligence. Exposure or training on emotional intelligence will help you encounter situations in life easily. E I helps you to resonate with so many people in effectively. It helps to focus on behaviors of others as well as you. That will help to improve relations in family and at work place.

Many people are disconnected from their emotions due to negative childhood experience which make them bottle up their feelings. Parents should spare some time of their busy schedules to listen to their child’s emotions and also keep track of them to help them learn emotional Intellegence

With simple examples and common langauge I tried to explain emotional intellegence.
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